Families For Life | Calling Out and Getting Out of Bed-Toddlers
Many toddlers test bedtime limits. Your child may call for you, leave their bed, or want "just one more" story because they are learning independence, experiencing separation anxiety, recovering from illness, or simply enjoying your attention. Some toddlers also find it difficult to settle after changes at home, such as starting childcare, moving house, or the arrival of a new sibling.
Create a Predictable Bedtime Routine
Toddlers thrive on routine. Aim to follow the same calming steps every night, such as taking a bath, brushing teeth, reading a short story, and having a cuddle before bed.
In the hour before bedtime, avoid exciting play and minimise screens such as tablets, phones, and television. A calm environment helps toddlers wind down more easily.
Before saying goodnight, make sure your child has had a drink of water, used the toilet if they are toilet-trained, and has everything they need. If your toddler is afraid of the dark, a small night-light can help.
When Your Toddler Calls Out
If your toddler genuinely needs help, respond to them. However, if they are calling out repeatedly to keep you nearby, offer brief reassurance from outside the room instead of starting new activities such as reading another story or providing extra snacks.
A simple response such as, "It's bedtime. I'll see you in the morning," can help your child learn what to expect.
When Your Toddler Leaves the Bed
If your toddler gets out of bed, calmly guide them back without arguing, negotiating, or scolding. Repeat the same message each time: "It's sleep time now."
Many toddlers need repeated practice before they learn to stay in bed. Staying calm and consistent is often more effective than lengthy explanations.
If Your Toddler Becomes Upset
Some toddlers cry or protest when bedtime boundaries change. Comfort them if needed, just as you would during the day. Once they are calm, gently return them to bed and continue the routine.
If sleep difficulties continue for several weeks or your child seems unusually anxious or distressed, consider speaking to your GP or paediatrician.
Start the Morning Positively
Praise your toddler for any success, even small improvements. Simple encouragement such as, "You stayed in bed so well last night," helps build confidence and motivation. Focus on progress rather than discussing bedtime struggles from the night before.
